Monday, October 26, 2015

Letters

I walked across the leaf strewn road and opened the mailbox.

She got another letter today.

I felt the wave of emotions come over me: What does it say this time? How much will it be not for her, but for me? Will it make her sad again?

I know that divorces are hard on kids. However, divorces with said father incarcerated in a distant prison is worse, much worse.

She gets confused by this person, who was incarcerated when she was 11 months old, constantly stating he misses her and wishes to see her. Of course kids want to make their parents happy, so in this case, said conversation ends up with an impromptu, "why can't we go see dad?" question.

The trip is 6 hours of travel time...

She didn't chose to commit a crime. You did. Therefore it's not her fault you miss her. It's yours.

Be a man and own up to it rather than passing on guilt. You'll do her psyche a huge favor.